How To Approach Women At Weddings Like A Classy Gentleman Instead Of Being A Creep
Wedding season is back with a bang and apart from rejoicing at the festivities, there are a lot of other things you may indulge in to live through the cold, long and harsh winter months. I mean yes, free-flowing alcohol is one option at weddings but I was talking about something a little more cosy! Weddings is a great time to meet new people and form new associations. If you’re from the groom or the bride’s side and are closely associated with either then you’ll definitely be interacting with their extended families and getting to know the unknowns a little better.
Chances are, you’ll find someone attractive enough to probably make a move too. Since festivities are in order and you’re single AF, there might be a chance you feel a little left out and might resort to the option of approaching women at the wedding. While that might be a good idea, remember you’re in the year 2018, the same year, #MeToo became a conscious effort to make a deliberate change in the way we act and feel, and so approaching a woman should be kept under measures suitable to the crowd you’re approaching. I am not saying you’re creepy, I just mean there is a certain code of conduct you need to follow through with, that’ll still get you what you like and want.
So, if you’re looking at hooking up/getting to know someone at a wedding this year, maybe this is how you should go about it
(1) Be As Amicable As You Possibly Can
Be cool and be as social as you possibly can. Be amicable and helpful around the ceremony and make an impression on everyone, not just women. And by impression I mean make a good impression. Women usually do notice single men around and if you make a good impression and the woman you’re trying to impress sees other women talking to you or gravitate towards you, she will do so herself too. On the other hand, if you come off a shy awkward and displaying a lack of confidence, no one is going to pay you any heed at all. So, be the kind of guy who is liked by everyone and try and be as confident as you can.
(2) Make Her Comfortable
You may spot someone you like who probably knows no one else except the groom or the bride. If you are talking to her, make sure you keep her company and don’t make her feel left out, just because she’s awkward. Make her have some fun and introduce her to people, so she can converse with them too. Don’t hit on her randomly and go away, she will feel a lot more awkward if you do that.
(3) Do Your Due Diligence
If you like someone , go for it but also find out who she is and if she’s from the same side of the party as you! If she’s not, then ask someone who knows her about her and get to know who she is. Make sure you’re in no way related to her, before you go talk to her. You might just be talking to your 5th cousin, you’ve never met, without you knowing it! So, it’s always a good thing to find out whatever you can about the girl.
(4) Don’t Be An outrageous Flirt
You never know what women might misconstrue as inappropriate behaviour, since appropriateness is still being defined or is rather decided by the girl so don’t outrageously and aggressively flirt with anyone. You can obviously get her a drink and take her phone number politely but if she’s not interested, it’s best to move on and let her be. No, women don’t like to be pursued beyond a point. If she likes the chase, trust me you’ll know she wants to be chased. But if she doesn’t you will know that too. So don’t make her uncomfortable, especially at a wedding!
(5) Don’t Get Too Drunk
Yes, alcohol is everywhere you breath. It’s a big fancy Indian wedding and unless the families have an issue with alcohol, it’s probably more prevalent than some draught stricken areas in India. But that doesn’t mean you drink the entire fountain! While getting drunk is great, it loosens your inhibitions, it’s not okay to get too drunk also. Maybe you can offer the lady you’re crushing on, a drink and give her company with your drink? That way you drink with her and you don’t go overboard!
Approaching a women anywhere in today’s day and age has to be well thought out. If she’s not comfortable with your presence get the hint and leave her alone. It all works on the principle of consent and once you understand that, it’ll be easier to make a fair judgment of what women really want. It’s either a yes, or a no and a no certainly doesn’t translate to ‘I wish you try harder’!